..if we met in a different context.
I used to believe that I only become friends with people,
because of who they are.
But this may not be the whole story.
I truly believe that where and how I meet the person truly affects my relationship with her/him.
Because it affects who I am.
Circumstances that increase my probability of becoming someone’s BFF:
-we meet one on one
-we meet overseas
-we do not meet in groups all the time
-we meet in a new environment
-we do not have (complicated) acquaintances
The common denominator of these situations:
I am not enslaved to my “roles”–good girl, good listener, nice girl, quiet girl, shy girl, put together girl, awkward girl, smart girl who doesn’t give a damn
Circumstances that decrease of probability of becoming someone’s BFF:
-we meet at work
-we meet in groups
-we have a mutual friend who I feel ambivalent about
Because I am limited to my “roles” in these circumstances.
These “roles” are only my safe representatives, not my true wholesome self.
Thus, I can befriend people better when:
–I can be myself–a girl who can be angry, anxious, complicated, confident, outspoken, sensitive, awkward, confused, who give a damn.
When I am this better Truer version of myself,
I can for the first time see others for who they really are.
Then, for the first time, I can know them.
When I truly know them, I can love anyone.
And if you love someone, you are probably their BFF.